Firstly MIL got back into Australia a week after my last post. It became obvious that the PILs had a different conflicting idea of what was going to happen with dd1 while MIL was away and when she got back. The frustrations have not ended and I continue to feel frustrated with their views on things. It has also come to light that dh thinks now that may have never been this huge bonding issue. I'm glad he said it but its opened up some anger from me towards MIL. She Truly believes that her way of parenting is the only way. She wont say that, but if you do something she wouldn't do then you're doing something wrong. dd1 seems so much more stable now, which makes me wonder whether the the instability in the first place stemmed from being over there. S
So anyway dd1 is here permenantly now. She and dd2 get on and don't get on and thats what being sisters is about. My chiropractor asked me a question a few weeks ago. He asked me to rank myself out of ten as a mother. I said 7. I'm not perfect. But i had a revelation today.
I try as a mother, I am gentle as a mother and I am the best mother for my children.
I get them and they get me. Sometimes i get mad, sometimes they get frustrated but thats ok.
second thing, I am becoming a competent sewer. I upcycled some items into an apron for a swap the other day and it looked quite good. I'm getting quite a stash of second hand/upcycled fabrics now too.
third I joined a gym and i love it. dd2 was sick this week so i haven't been but the body balance class is awesome. cheap too.
fourth thing is we are moving in October as we found a great place by the beach. All the things we need. 4 bedroom, 2 living areas, 2 car garage. It had been stressful living where we are for a few reasons so this move should help enormously.
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