A lot of support

A few weeks back I decided to do a post on a forum i belong to, about my family situation.  I knew many people were curious and I wanted to tell our story as you never know who else is going through similar issues as you.  I expected a lot of people to say that dd1 should be at home with me, dh and dd2 but instead I got a lot of support and admiration for putting dd1 first.  I had a couple of people suggest I see a psychologist of some kind.  Thats a good idea.  If i did do that, I would like MIL to come too and have the therapist be more of a sounding board and advisor rather than tell us what to do.  

We have a new idea too.  While dd1 has ben sleeping over much more, she is still having insecurity issues.  So here is the idea.  Since dd1 considers herself to have 2 homes(fair enough and natural) maybe we should split the week into the two homes.  Maybe 3 full days with us to begin with and then as she adjusts we add a day.  I think she doesn't really know where she stands and with the PIL moving in a couple of weeks, impromptu visits will become a lot harder to accommodate.  It gives us a starting point whereas at the moment everything is so flexible.  Will have to talk to dh about this, but seems like a good idea.